Parshas Shemini 5785
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מכות דף יב.
"אב שהרג בנו נעשה לו גואל הדם"
The רמ"א [ס' רמ' סי' כד'] brings the מהרי"ק who says that a person is not מחוייב in כבוד אבי אביו (honoring his grandfather). The רמ"א says that these words of the מהרי"ק "לא נראה לי", however, he does say that כיבוד אב does come before כבוד אבי אביו (the grandfather). The ט"ז brings Rashi on the pasuk [ויגש, מו' א'] that יעקב אבינו brought קרבנות to "אלוקי אביו יצחק", yet it doesn’t mention אברהם אבינו there. Rashi says this is because "חייב אדם בכבוד אביו יותר מכבוד זקנו". A person is obligated in honoring his father more than the honor of his elder (grandfather). The ט"ז says we see from here like the רמ"א that there is a דין of kavod to a grandfather just the father comes first and not like the מהרי"ק!
Many ask from our Gemara that says that if one accidentally killed his own son, the victim’s son, which is the grandson of the murderer, may be a Goel HaDam and avenge his father’s killing. Rashi explains that the grandson may avenge his father by killing his grandfather, because a grandson is "אינו מוזהר על כבודו" (of a grandfather). Here, Rashi seems to be saying that a grandson is not Mechuyav at all in the kavod of his grandfather. This is in contradiction to his pshat in Chumash and brought by the above Taz as a proof to the psak of the Rema that there is a din of kibud to a grandfather! וצ"ע
Rav Chaim Pinchos Scheinberg zt”l in [כיבוד אב] משמרת חיים brings the תשובה מאהבה who asks: The Gemara [קידושין לא] that says if one’s father and mother ask him for a drink of water simultaneously, one is obligated to serve his father first, because him and his mother are both obligated in the honor of his father. Based on this, if one’s father and grandfather ask for something to be brought at the same time, one should have to serve the grandfather first because of the same rule applies that he and his father are both commanded in his kavod! If so, why does the רמ"א say one’s father comes before one’s grandfather? עיי"ש.
The [שם כד'] שו"ע says that one is also מחוייב to be מכבד his father-in-law. The ט"ז says the מקור for this is from דוד המלך who called שאול המלך, his father-in-law, אבי. The ט"ז brings the ב"ח (his own father-in-law), who says the same holds true for one’s mother-in-law. [פרק יב'] ספר חרדים says one is מחוייב in kavod for a father-in-law and a mother-in-law, because "אשתו כגופו" so the parents of one’s spouse is the same rule as his own parents.
